Don’t Ever Lose Your Voice..And…Never Shy Away From Your Moments!

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(Buzz off this pic me…and…every single thing it stands for. Was amazing to be part of this parade. Credit – Martin Mckeown – inpresspics.com – Foyle Cup 2019)

I really appreciate all the love you guys have shown me over the last year or two on WordPress.

You have really got behind me…in a way…which…was never foreseen or anticipated at inception.

I hope it’s apparent that I consistently try to reciprocate…as best as possible…and…am truly captivated by some of the fascinating characters on here.

Made some fantastic connections…with some really gifted people…worldwide.

It’s been…my absolute pleasure…my friends.

The last 4 or 5 posts….put out…have all been to do with making people smile…making…people…feel alive…and…showing that…although I am crazy…I’m…not quiteee as crazy as some may think.😂

There’s regularly 10,000 word posts blasted out on this blog…for fun…quite often…dealing with topics not willingly spoken about in the mainstream of society.

This…isn’t my professional website…it’s…my own thoughts and expressions…so…you wander…on…yonder…at…your own admissible peril.

These last 5 posts…when you break them down…have been…visual aids…that…back up and illustrate…99% of the words I’ve ever written previously on here.

They show…the real life evidence…and…value in them.

Scroll through the many ramblings…and…you’ll see snippets of every single one…intertwined…in some way…somewhere…within all of these moving images.

I’ve regularly said…that…the only reason I’m able to write about certain things…able to get certain points…across…and…so…bang on…is…because…I’ve made…far more mistakes…and messed up…many more times growing up…than the majority of people reading this…ever could.

I don’t know it all…by any means…I…still…get it wrong…but…a lot of what I do know…is most definitely worth listening to.

I’ve learnt the hard way….with many things…which…there is no education in the world like…honestly.

We would never understand the yin…without the yang…as they say.

Some of the best lessons in life…the most valuable ones…that are needed as essentials…to be passed down…from generation to generation…are learnt from f*****g it up…missing the trick…and getting it all spectacularly wrong at some point.

These….situations…in my opinion…develop the humility and ability to identity and see the real tangible value…in the lessons those mistakes have to offer…if…we are actually prepared to apply the due diligence and effort needed…to initiate prosperous change.

That’s how I went from regression…to…becoming a master of my craft…never shying away from any moment.

You won’t show me a single instance we’ve moved on from…through the ages…towards progressive development…logical equality…betterment…and unity…where…the key fundamentals needed…to press forwards…weren’t based around…having to focus on all the positive lessons to be learnt…from the negatives of actuality…or…past mistakes…with…belief…tolerance…and…an intent…to logically…consciously…use those lessons learnt…for transferable future reference…in…acceptance and evolvement.

You won’t show me a single instance where those statements…if not attempted or adhered to…don’t create a situation…where…the advancement…instead…becomes the catalyst or reason to start or continue to bare arms…animosity…judgement…prejudice and hatred.

Might seem random some of the things I’m saying…but…they’re…key essential components…slowly…being omitted from general common sense.

We’ve entered an era…the…day and age where…every single natural…human…”Imperfection”…”Flaw” or mistake…has to be ironed out…filtered…glossed over…covered up…shunned…shamed…hidden…apologised for…avoided…mocked…or…corrected.

Acting…like…your actual…natural…human self…and…speaking your actual…individual human mind…seems to be severely frowned upon in most settings.

The prescription of this drip fed…conceited…awe inspiring…model life…with it’s perfect social status…and image…is…rammed down our throats on a secondly basis…no matter the demographic…subsection…or…target audience we’re being pigeon holed into/towards.

The level being set for the next generation…for…all generations…if we’re prepared to be honest…has become idiosyncratically…impossible…to attain.

Especially…considering…how flawed the nervous system we possess actually is…in the first place.(The same nervous system that really possesses us…may I add.)

Many will argue…everything I’ll describe about modern society…in this post…has been that way…in some manner…shape or form…since the very beginning…and…I don’t think they would be too far wrong there to be honest.

The worry we have to shoulder though…comes from certain areas never having been at this type of extreme…this…type of magnitude…or multitude…before.

You may be questioning why I’m even going on about this in the first place.

Well…my concerns…come from the way I used to feel myself…wrapped up in the media machine…as a teenager…when it was far less intense than it is now.

My concerns…also come…from…the way others tell me they used to feel themselves…and…from the way….more people than not…are…actually feeling today…as you’re reading this…right now.

I meet a hell of a lot of different types of people me.

Like…properly meet them…connect with them.

Way beyond the normal amount.

I’m very lucky…more than I ever imagined…because…I truly get to have real human conversations…and interactions…in a private setting…one on one…behind closed doors…away from the world…when all defences are down.

One thing I’ve been told…an alarming amount of times over the years…from…all different ages…sexes…colours…and creeds…is…how…a lot of people don’t feel good enough…by today’s standards…representations…and benchmarks.

How…as a result of not feeling good enough…they don’t feel able to step up to their moments…for…a diverse amount of different reasons.

You can call it first world problems…but it’s not…at all.

It’s a serious social problem.

Global problem.

Said it before…I’ve…traveled to untouched islands in the middle of the ocean.

Locations so remote…it almost costs you your life getting there.

Touched down…and…the majority all got I phones in their hands…caps on back to front…wanting that “Good good life.”

One of the main issues I’ve consistently identified…and spoken about…is that…we’re…no doubt…across the board…completely immersed…in a global culture…that rabidly promotes us to buy into a never ending plethora of pointless…insignificant…products…services…trends…agendas…ideologies…and information.

A culture that teaches us to put more faith…effort and time…into obsessing about those never ending areas…than on our actual selves…or the natural world around us.

We have moved into a time where the ability to be ourselves…together…has never been so at our disposal…yet…we are still bowing in the majority…to…whatever becomes the prescribed conventional regurgitation….or relevant group identity.

A lot of human nature does come in to play with this…yes…but…if you have the experience of working with many people closely…like I have in my clinic…or in numerous performance settings over the years.

You will know that…a lot of people living that way…have this…wave of expressive individual vibrancy…locked away inside…trapped…that…they just want to let burst out of them…but don’t know how.

When it doesn’t get let out…and explored…things…can become very dark…very bleak…and…all of the moments…available to shine…become…relegated into the abyss of obscurity.

When it does get let out…and you see that person actually let go…it’s the birth of a new them.

Beautiful to see.

These…moments…I keep saying to stand up for…and never miss out on…can’t…truly ever be defined…as…they’re…all…individual.

Who am I to tell you what they are?

It’s…part of your own book being written.

Your story…aint mine…and…my…story…aint…your’s.

You are the only…you…in the entire world…which…in my opinion…is beyond an exhilarating proprietary to be able to pull out of the bag at any given moment.

Every single one of us hold the capability to bring something to the earth…it’s never seen before…in some way…both…good and bad.

There is most definitely…always…a place out there…for us all to thrive…no matter who we are…no matter what we are…or believe in…we…just have to search hard enough to find it.

Nobody is going to be able to sell it or show it to us…I promise you that.

Before our place can actually be found…the hardest…the most difficult search of all…required…is…the one needed in ourselves.

Who we…truly are…and…what…we…truly are…deep down inside…is typically found in the places within our minds…often hidden away from the world…from the critics…and sometimes…even ourselves.

An exploration that actually takes serious mental strength to navigate…face…and decipher.

True success isn’t about status…bank balance…or power.

It’s…about…doing…you…being…you…feeling stimulated…while…still being able to give back in some way.

It’s as much about what we do for others as it is about what we do for ourselves.

Clock is always ticking.

I say…search for it…be honest about it…find it…and…just…run with it.

Don’t stop…for nobody…never…otherwise…you will miss your moments.

Once they’re gone…they’re…gone…and…when hindsight comes knocking on the door…the mental fortitude needed…to saddle back up…and attempt something else…completely new…from scratch…can…be all too paralysing…as a result.

Always embrace that individualism needed in any moment…even…within connected and team environments.

I don’t believe you can work well in a high level team if you don’t know how to be your individual self first.

I’ll die by that statement.

You’ll hear…people say…”There is no I…in team.”

Well…they’ve…missed the trick…completely there…in my opinion…been…blinded by the cliches.

You can’t get rid of the “I’s”…in…any team…as…it’s not how life works…is it?

We’re quite clearly…obviously…an “I”…before…we’re ever anything else…no…if…ands buts or maybes about it lol.

Ask any true coach or manager of any true good quality team…who play well together.

Any sport.

Any job.

Any profession.

They’ll tell you…it’s…a room…full of unique…individual characters…with their own individual quirks…they’re own personalities…positives and negatives…pluses and minuses.

Individuals…with their own lives…their own stories…who…understand how to come together and unite…how to embrace and interact…for a cause…need…want…or…bigger picture.

People who are prepared to…be human…act…human…learn from mistakes and step up to the moments…both as themselves and as a group to push further.

When we simplify it all…to the very basics…no matter what we are a part of…life…is a rolling series…of intrinsic and extrinsic…connections….losses…experiences…and memories.

Good…bad…indifferent…and…in-between.

It’s not all rooting tooting…excitement and adulation…but…regardless of the situation…or setting…shying away…suppressing…ourselves…our true expression…and feelings…in any situation…is a sure fire way to be left with regret…and…anguish…in the end.

Regret…and…anguish…can…last a whole lifetime…festering…poisoning…and…destroying the entire essence of a person.

Seen it happen more times than I care to reflect on.

Again…for those that say…this is all too deep…my…response…is…simply… “Nahhh…you just ain’t deep enough…I’m afraid.”

It’s individuals…prepared to come together…as collectives…to delve deep enough into things…that mould…shape…revolutionise…and change the world.

Embracing the moment…embracing the self…and embracing the right people chosen to be around in life.

We’re All Writing Our Stories…Together

What you see below…is…a video of Jezza and myself…starting off…in a nice…quaint parade…with the under 13s team…which…culminated in us meeting up with the older lads…in the main square of Derry.

Approx 6000 people took part.

It all started building…while we were walking on up…but…was still pretty calm.

Once we got together though…it…was decided…as a team…pretty much…one life…so…live it.

Took over the parade and turned it into a carnival.

Everything came to a standstill at one point for us.😂

We weren’t prepared to miss the moment.

Everybody involved with the whole team were having the time of their lives…and felt the pride.

Massive smiles on every face.

Massive smile on the crowd’s face’s.

The people I worked with…and the boys I treated…inspired me to be a better man…regardless of what I did for them in return.

An environment of individuals…who allowed me to be an individual…so we could all come together…as a team….to win a cup…and bring people together.

The lads had no phones or electronic devices apart from a small 30-60 min window per day…and were prompted to engage in human interaction and camaraderie.

I saw quite a few…young…shy…boys…who at the beginning of the week…were more reserved…and in the background.

Fast forward to the end of the week…and…they were right there in the thick of it…at the forefront…expressing themselves.

It’s times like this that make us the real trillionaires…rich in life.

I’ll finally end with:

This video…to me….truly represents…stepping out of your “Comfort zone”…as individuals…in a team…and sometimes having to lead…in a crowd full of many…together.

Stepping up to a moment….99% would have shied away from.

I don’t think you will see many better examples of some of these words.

The Mayor of Derry said she wanted us all to make more noise…so…we…naturally thought it only proper and respectful to oblige!?

When the opportunity comes knocking…make sure you are present and centre.

Be you…whoever that is…and…smile!

We went down In Foyle Cup folklore that parade.

Enjoy the video…have the best day…ever!

What A Day To Be Alive

Disturb The Paradigm

Yesterday Is Irrelevant…Tomorrow Not Guaranteed.

LEE CLEAVER (Clinic Website)

THE PIONEER OF MOVEMENT

Soft Tissue Specialist – Movement Analyst – Elite Performance Coach