I’ve been asked many times in the last four days, have you heard about Wayne Rooney?
Each time, I’ve just said “No.”
If I’m honest though, my truest response each time has wanted to be “Yes, but I don’t care enough to talk about another mans downfalls, I don’t even know the geezer!”
Most of these conversations took place in a professional setting, so I thought best to leave it well alone, as it wasn’t high on my priority of thoughts, or something I felt passionately enough about to have a public debate over.
It was a strange kind of conversation to me though, as there seemed to be a delight I observed in many from getting to be the one to tell me of his awful, atrocious acts. (Not all)
The self righteousness they seemed to relish in while regurgitating the information that mapped the downfall of another human being was almost, saddening.
I know I’m not imagining it, because I didn’t just see it, I felt it, amongst the majority.
How descriptive, well versed and knowledgeable about the topic some seemed to be, was surreal to me.
Some were actually genuinely angered, outraged emotionally by his actions and harboured a feeling of being let down.
It was really eye opening and that may sound strange in itself? Perhaps I’m just out of touch and behind the times?
I haven’t done a blog post in a while, so I thought I’d throw this rationale out in one.
I guess, I haven’t really ever had faith in this super connected, mass produced, glossy, polished over, marketed world, full of heroes and false prophets, so I haven’t ever had a need to consistently post.
I prefer to write the odd thing that comes from the heart, that I feel truly stands for something tangible and throw them out on the line for people to think about.
Might be wrong, I might be right, but the world still turns none the less.
This allows me to stay away from the “online world” while I guess, still playing a little part in it.
I usually get passed all of the juicy gossip and news second hand off other people in conversation and how important I perceive it to be, concludes whether or not I’ll choose to learn more about the topic or not.
Most times I have to hear about things such as Mr Rooney’s private life, from third parties, because I’m not in the loop on that type of scene.
I hate my mobile phone most of the time and if it’s not needed for work, then I’ve usually not got it on me!
I tried social media, it wasn’t for me in the end, I wasn’t for it and I don’t really have time for television other than for sports.
On this occasion I decided to look further into the Wayne Rooney saga as some of the most breathtaking moments in my life have included him on the pitch and I wanted to know how big it had got.
This isn’t an attempt at a get out of jail free card for Waz, it’s no more than a shortened, broken down, honest view of a current situation, that keeps on coming up in conversation in my life.
Stop buying into it all…just stop…as quick as you can!
Wayne Rooney, that guy, is NO different to you or I, no different.
He’s not special and he’s not a celebrity, because those don’t really actually exist in the real world.
He’s a regular, everyday, normal man, with some skill, or talent, like we all have, in our own way, in some form or another, who just decided to put more focus, effort, drive and dedication in than 99% of people are prepared to do.
That’s why he stands out from the crowd, that’s why he inspires and is the only reason he is spoken about.
If he didn’t play football, with his drive, you wouldn’t, I wouldn’t, be talking about him.
No matter how intelligent, how skilled, how unique, how driven, or genetically gifted you are, you’re still floored, man or woman, because you’re human.
Before you look at him, look at yourself?
That’s what I do.
Never made a mistake? Never messed anything up? Not got any regrets?
If you answered no to those things, then, to me, you have never truly lived, because woooooo, I KNOW I can say yes yes yes!
You can’t honestly place that type of pressure upon a boy who simply was forced to become a man, in a world where we are given no rule book, unless you are prepared to place that pressure upon yourself?
Will you stand up in front of a crowd of millions and show/admit your failures, your mistakes, your fears, complexities, wrong doings, private thoughts and insecurities, for everybody to pick apart, to judge, gang up on and ridicule in front of you?
You strong enough to do that?
Strong enough to survive, endure that?
If you answered no, then is it fair in this instance?
We all have those things that would be shown to the crowd, in some way, at some time in our lives, we’re all human, it’s part of how we have evolved and how we will continue to do so?
Granted there is a moral compass and logical analysis of any act, but lets face it, considering the life he has lived and the effect it has to have had on the body and nervous system, I think his mistakes are pretty humane, and logically, when clinically analysed, I’m sure, in line with a lot of the psychological stressors he has been dealing with, constantly, consistently and regularly, over a heavily, heavily sustained period of time.
Year, after year, after year, after year.
This is usually the point where sadly, many will have thought the uninformed, blindly distorted, insensitive, unrealistic cliche of…
“Stress, what stress, give me that type of money and I’ll take that type of stress, he doesn’t know stress.”
I’ll tell you this for truth…
The majority of people you ever met in your life, in this day and age, would crash and burn into the biggest flames you ever saw if you just plonked them with Wayne Rooney’s weekly wage and image related income alone.
It would only be a few that could truly deal with it, let alone from 16.
That’s without even beginning to factor in the negative intrinsic and extrinsic psychological and physiological problems that would arise from living his particular life and type of lifestyle?
Not just his particular life and lifestyle in the general sense of his conventional endeavours, as in across the board in professional football, but the unique way his life has played out for him.
The “I’d take that, I’d do that, for that type of money,” with no disrespect intended, is just an apparent naivety of the nervous system, human physiology and a complete lack of understanding of what it is he is actually doing in the first place.
It’s not the publics fault, it’s the glossed over, blind outlook created by the media machine.
“He’s just kicking a ball round a pitch for millions.”
You hear it so, so often in everyday life and that outlook is truly laughable to me.
It has to be broken down to the most cellular of levels and it’s just not, very often at all.
If you genuinely think you are living Wayne Rooneys life, for over fifteen years straight, without developing a few, if not a lot of major psychological issues or problems along the way, then you truly are uninformed.
YOU…me….WE…aren’t going to be able to live “normal” everyday life without developing a few that either need addressing, or leaving alone to let ruin us, so what chance has he got!?
There isn’t a person on this planet that fully understands life and it is questionable to say that we ever will.
On that basis we enter situations and scenarios of the mind that we don’t understand, that we have no real answers or explanations to offer ourselves.
We’re in the dark trying to find a light switch.
Depending on the amount of stressors being experienced, the severity/perceived severity of those stressors and the unique individual experiencing them, when we can’t understand and can’t find the answer, malfunction can easily occur, in any of us,
That malfunction then manifests into issues, that lead to other issues, that lead to a cycle of dismay.
One that can affect a persons whole world.
I don’t know if he’s in that cycle or out of it, do you?
I feel I’d be pretty mad to expect him not to have made a few mistakes, in fact, I’m pretty shocked he hasn’t made more, especially with the abundance of catalysts he has to do so.
He’s been acting “Erratically,” “Destructively” and has just turned a completely new chapter in his life on top of everything else I’ve already said.
I don’t know if he’s thinking straight, have you always been thinking straight? I’d be lying if I said I had. (I know you would be too)
I don’t know if he’s suffering from depression, I don’t know if he needs help, I don’t know if he has problems or if he doesn’t, I don’t know if he’s truly a bad guy, do you?
That’s the point I’m getting at, I don’t know him, but if I’m going to talk about him, I’m going to go in with an open mind and analyse the logic of everything I can see.
I’m not going to hang him just because I have the opportunity.
If he has murdered somebody, raped somebody, fiddled with a kiddy, then yes, let’s stand up, let’s make sure something serious gets done, let’s be bothered and make sure that he stands accountable at the highest degree.
But to have something like this splashed across all of the front of the newspapers, top of the search engines, being spoken about all over social media constantly, like he is a demonic evil being who deserves his private life and career being ripped apart, for doing something milllllions of people will be doing over an average couple of days?
Instead of persecuting, why not feel sorry?
Why not see the frequency of how often it happens, why it tends to happen?
Why not show compassion, care, concern, or humility, if you are going to focus so much effort on it?
At least all of that effort may result in some positivity, may result in helping somebody?
Exactly the same problems you go through, so does he.
Things can seem so black and white, but once you truly delve into the crevices of the deepest parts of our minds, our actions, our responses, our beliefs, nothing is just that straight forward.
For example…an example…of generic…life…the norm…without even factoring in he’s…Wayne Rooney…
How do you know his wife doesn’t psychologically bully him? happens every day between spouses at a staggering rate in society, man to woman, woman to man, often gets swept right under the carpet.
How do you know he doesn’t psychologically bully his wife, has realised he does so, has woken up to his mistakes and is finding it hard to live with himself for the things he’s done?
That his actions aren’t a coping mechanism?
You just don’t have a clue, there are far too many parameters for us to even comment unless we sit down in a room with him, one on one and he opens up to us.
I don’t know, I really can’t say, I don’t know what’s going on between them and it’s nothing to do with me, but again if you want to go down the judgment and persecution road, you can’t just look at the surface of his singular, individual human mistakes to define him as the man he is.
There are so many real life issues, we all can encounter, no matter our bank balance.
This guy is living a type of life 99% couldn’t even fathom truly living, give the guy a break!
He messed up, ok, but focus on your own life and mending the things you need to mend, we all have them through our journeys and I’m sure Wayne will be just fine sorting his.
The best thing about this story to me is…
We live in the type of world where…
There would have been a guy out there, somewhere, guaranteed, lying in bed, with his wife’s sister, smoking a post coital cigarette, watching the story break on tele saying “See, I told you, I’ve said for years that Rooney is a wrong un, I knew I was right.”
There would have been a guy out there who wrote an article on it, absolutely slaughtering and ruining him, snorting cocaine all night, drink driving home under the influence of copious amount of alcohol.
That’s the world we seem to live in…hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil…unless it’s about somebody else?
People tell me it’s different though in these situations, and I ask why?
I cringe when somebody responds to me “He’s a role model though.”
It’s such a generic, get out of jail free answer, that overts the complexities of the subject at hand, overts the natural chaos and order of natural world.
To me It’s an excuse and a cop out people use to not have to critically think.
Don’t get me wrong I understand the influence people can have, but I also understand that ultimately, it was all up to me in the end, it was my judgment, my experiences, my personality, what I have or haven’t been taught, or what I was or wasn’t personally prepared to learn, take on board and put into practice.
I chose to do what I did and the reasons why, may be of a very complex nature.
People can play a part in that, yes, but were they actually the fundamental route cause?
I feel it’s personally ludicrous to place the pressure on a human being to label them as a messianic role model without their consent or agreement.
If they are a role model to such an extent, then surely, so are you?
If you think that a regular human, with a talent for a sport that’s got media and television coverage, is automatically a role model to every child and adult and should never make a humane mistake, then what is a mother, a father, a brother, sister, aunty, uncle, friend, what are you?
Are you prepared to take on that mantle too, because if you are pushing it on him, then you must be judging him by your own standards?
When people drop the role model bomb, I’m just like cmmmmon mannn, take some damn responsibility, or look in the mirror!
He may have people looking up to him, buttt to me it’s usually a way of shifting blame to somebody else.
A way of holding them to a unrealistic demagogic status to harbour and shoulder the blame for so many shortcomings of others.
If I get caught drink driving tomorrow, it’s not Wayne Rooney’s fault is it!?
If your son or daughter gets caught drink driving tomorrow, then is it Rooney’s fault?
Just look at Football as a sport as a whole, Jesus, on the outside, at face value, it seems like something to get your kid involved in, to support, but where do we even start breaking down the reasons for it not being something of role model standard.
Most people aren’t prepared to see things for what they truly are and that’s coming from somebody who loves football with a passion.
I’ll end with this, my friends.
I’ve gone into such detail, because it’s abundantly obvious that people, for some reason, really do care.
I really struggle to see how in this day and age, with all the things happening across the world and in our societies, we have time to even ponder such insignificant information.
We’re making a big deal about real life, everyday occurrences, that happen for MANY different reasons and have happened since the dawn of time.
When there’s a big elephant in the room that needs pointing out, the majority get on their phones trying to know more about Wayne or start ranting and raving for a cause that doesn’t even exist.
The opportunity comes to constructively talk about changes that need to be positively made in the world, but the majority tend to run away and hide in stories like this, that’s why they sell.
They aim to give people the moral high ground and judgment, burying their heads in the sand to all of the real problems we face.
That’s why we never seem to be able to sort anything out, because we are so preoccupied with irrelevant, trivial, obvious occurrences.
That kind of stuff is happening secondly across the world, to people that live in your street, work colleagues, friends, family, it’s nothing new, it’s nothing shocking, it’s the bleeding obvious in life.
The guys a footballer, look at his career, look what he has done, look what he achieved, you can’t fault the man in any way shape or form for it, he did his job, he owed you nothing more, nothing.
It’s very easy to shout and heckle from the warmth of the seat of the spectator, but he did his job, beyond his wildest dreams.
He came, he saw, he conquered, he made humane mistakes like all men and women do, his memory will be eternal in football, his private life should be of no concern to you or I.
If it is, then, that’s unhealthy, it needs addressing just like his issues.
Have the best day ever…and concentrate on yourself!