Motivation…No Watered Down Hype

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People showed me love for my post on “fighting…The real truth”…and for that…my friends…I genuinely thank you.

It could have easily been incorrectly taken as me being disrespectful…and the respect and honour being shown within the words could have been missed.

I write these things from experience…in the hope they help just one person…so I’m buzzing I had a boxer fill in the contact me section asking me to get in touch with him.

He wasn’t a professional boxer…he was somebody who has been taking lessons for only 6 months…but feels like he is one of the worst in the class.

I don’t care what level anybody is at…or how long they have been doing anything…6 years…6 months…or 6 minutes.

We all start somewhere…and I think that is sometimes forgotten…the bigger some people get in their industries.

If I’ve got any time free to do so…then I like to try…to give back…I made a promise to myself that I will never allow that to change in me.

We emailed…then spoke on the phone…and from what we ended up speaking about…I asked him if it was ok for me to write a blog on it.

I truly believe our discussion could be of help to somebody…and perhaps offer a little more clarity to a transferable area in another part of their life they are having trouble with.

At the start…I asked him why he felt the way he did…and he pretty much told me it was because he couldn’t get the drills the way some of the others could…because he felt like he wasn’t progressing… and stood out as being substandard.

He was starting to wonder if it was to do with his movement…physiology…or structure…and read my post…so thought he would try getting in touch.

I said what I always say if it’s from an online query…which is if anybody ever tells you…about you…as in your structure and movement patterns…from behind a computer screen…or on a phone…without test and analysis in person…then the advice is not relevant…in any way shape or form.

I then proceeded to ask him how many times he was doing it per week…and…if he dedicated any time to research or practice.

He is currently…and has previously been…attending a class every Thursday night that lasts an hour and a half…and struggles to fit any more in with work and studying for university exams.

Maybe his movement…proprioception…firing patterns…or length to tension ratio are actually out…or dysfunctional…but unless he wants me to analyse in person…I can’t be of help…so I offered him some logical thinking…and advice towards his boxing issues. (I’m not a boxing coach but I’ve worked with quite a few different types of fighters…and have been around the industry)

I’ve had to make many changes in my life to be able to progress…had to face some harsh truths…and realities…so I usually question the reasoning…methodology and application in a respectful manner…before starting to consider anything about movement or physiology anyway.

I broke the first thing down to him which was the obvious…Once a week never being able to contend with twice a week…and twice a week never comparing to three etc.

It’s the fine art…and balance…of safely…individually…and specifically pushing beyond your current mental and physiological barriers to create a stronger…resilient…more mobile and efficient you within your chosen endeavor.

Processing it all to become a natural…dependable…reliable motor skill…while still ensuring it transferable and functional to your everyday life.

They are the goals first and foremost…and to be able to get anywhere near closer to those goals…you have to apply yourself in a logical…calculated manner…but most importantly you have to analyse how important it all is to you in the first place…in the grand scheme of your life.

We all make the same excuses in some way or another…you see it…or have done it on a daily basis…which is normal.

There are only 24 hours in a day…which can make certain things hard to do…but learning…and teaching the body and the mind how to progress at something…starts with doing it over and over again…time after time.

It all depends on how much you really want to do it…vs…how much you really like the fantasy or the idea about it.

It all depends on your current priorities…on if you are prepared to make and sacrifice your precious time for it.

If it…is…something you want that bad…something…you believe in that much…then you find a way…to find a way…all day…every…day. (just look at people who are physically and psychologically dependent on hard drugs or alcohol…they always find a way…to find a way…no matter the cause or effect…because…they want…they need…that badly…and as sad as that comparison is…it proves if you want or need things badly enough…you take the steps needed to get them…and to me it’s no different with your dreams and your aspirations)

If you stand there…look yourself in the eyes…in the mirror…like I have done myself…and ask the question “do I ever waste any time?”…just you…that mirror…and a room…nobody there to persecute or judge…then the results can be priceless.

If you can be honest to yourself…then the thoughts…can astound you…can create an unrivaled positivity…an answer to how to achieve those things you thought were always going to be…just out of reach.

We live in the age of constant distraction and agenda and when you start to realise that…you start to realise how much time you do actually have to evolve…to learn…to develop…to grow.

You can’t evolve without a stimulus for growth.

Take the times you stood waiting for the microwave to ping…water to boil…pasta to cook…bath to run…phone to charge…computer to load …programme to start…etc etc etc…all of those minutes…across all of those months.

Its not about…turning up to a class 5 times a week…its about what you take from that class…and apply to your everyday life in the pursuit of it becoming a natural everyday skill.

Take all of those minutes…across all of those months I just described…and think if you had spent them stepping…bobbing…weaving…ducking…diving…and throwing your guard up…practicing those drills you were having trouble with…they would now be instinctive…would they not?

That’s just the layer…once you’ve been honest with yourself about that…you start to apply what I’ve just said…and question further.

Imagine if 99% of those statuses you read…every single day for 6 months…were excerpts of an informed logical book…based around real world experience on your goal…where would your knowledge be now?

How much time do you spend on facebook…on instagram…or snapchat…twitter…youtube…google…texting…emailing…calling…how many minutes…across all those months…could have made you a better boxer…more confident in yourself and your ability?

We had no time but did we still go to those parties…those days out…nights out…or social events?

How many times did you willingly choose to participate in those activities instead of practicing? Only we can be honest with ourselves about that.

Don’t get me wrong…you have to “live”…you have to have a “life”…but again…it comes down to how much you really want it in the first place…and what your heart defines as living.

Nobody should ever tell you how to live…or how to spend your minutes…hours…days…or months…but…if you are struggling with time…then you have to analyse…assess…and…make that time.

You don’t need to go and dedicate your life to winning a belt…title…or championship…but if you want to get better…you are going to have to dedicate…more.

If it means that much to you…if it’s that important…it’s the only option to get what you want.

When I asked him if he had been on any nights out in the last month…and he said he had been out every Saturday night.

I respected him for his honesty and questioned if two or three of those nights out could have been compromised or exchanged for an extra boxing class 2 or 3 weeks in the month…to which he replied “yes.”

My words are not meant in judgment as it’s not about anybody being wrong…or right…in the way in which they choose to live their life…that is individual choice

It’s about…getting what we really…actually…do want out of it ourselves…in our hearts…and in our minds.

You can’t ever expect to be truly confident in something unless you practice…the more you practice…the more you believe and you see  your ability.

The confidence in a class…or in any setting that replicates any form of similar scenario…is a matter of belief in your ability…but secondly…your belief in that ability vs others.

Stop thinking about them…you aren’t training to fight them…or be them…you are there for your purpose.

If any of the people in that class have a lesson to teach…approach them…learn…develop…grow…get to know them…and do the same in return.

If any of them treat you with disrespect…then don’t bother with or about them.

That’s how you become comfortable in a boxing gym or any social surrounding…and how you let your talents flourish without comparison or fear towards other people.

I’ll leave you with this…very true about the boxing and fighting world…but also an analogy to take out into life.

If I snapped my fingers together right now and got you a world title shot for your weight class in 5 days time…they would all laugh…well at least the majority.

You would have papers…magazines…television…social media…pundits…fans…critics…you name it…laughing at you…crucifying you and calling you for your opportunity.

You would have people you hadn’t met for 10 years tuning in to watch you get knocked out and tell stories about the mistakes you have made in the past…the majority of the people around you…apart from the true ones…would be either wanting or expecting you to fail…spectacularly…but…remember…

If you went and knocked the champ out and took his belt…then mark my words…they would all creep out of the wood work…”Don’t you remember I went to school with you?”…”I used to work with you”…”I’ve served you in a petrol station don’t you remember?”

“I know him…I know him!!!”

Everybody would want a piece of you…and the majority would now want to be your best friend.

Don’t worry about others…and don’t expect support to come easy…things can change over night.

Find the true humans that you can connect with…go more…do more…practice in your own time…learn…develop…believe and prosper…or find what it is you actually have a passion for…and apply similar to all of the above.

Life is too short…to miss and waste opportunities…or spend our time chasing something we never really wanted that badly in the first place…but started it…and just went through the motions because we were too scared to get off the ride.

Be you my friends…find it…pursue it…chase it…live it…be it.

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